Dear KC:

Heard about your blog and wanted to know if you could post this message for everyone to see and give me some advice.  My husband and I are in a very tense situation at home that will inevitably lead to divorce.  We were discussing when we should speak to our children about what is happening between us and my husband said they already have an idea.  I asked why he said that, and he told me it’s because of conversations he’s had with our older child  who is 17.  I asked what conversations and he told me that those conversations were private.

I think that is very unfair for my husband to have private conversations with the children that I am left out of.  It feels like he is trying to turn our children against me.  Can you please tell me what you think?

Patiently waiting for your advice,

Terrie