Dear Terrie:

Thanks for writing in.  I think you need to have a conversation with your spouse about this without a doubt.  When you do speak with him, please be calm and approach it the subject gently and do not be on the defensive.  Help him to understand how having private conversations with your children and not telling you about it later can only damage the relationship you have with your children and then put them against you later.  I’m sure he would want you to do the same.

As for the tense situation at home that you think will lead to divorce, do some soul searching and see if you can do what you can to save the marriage.  Contact your clergy for help and see if they can recommend some biblical based counseling for you and your husband.

Let me know how you make out.

KC